Books like The Heart of Tantric Sex

I found this book to be kind of like a feminist (though not politically oriented) view of sex, even though I haven't really read much feminist critiques of sex. But, in general, the ideas presented in this book lead to, as well as come from an equal relationship; in this author's view sex is really a meeting of equals, or it ends up being unsatisfactory or at least unmindful for both, in the long run. i also found the book to be open to non-hetero sex, though it's been a while since I've read it so I could be a little off there. The most interesting thing about it is its critique of Western sex as being driven to achieve "climax" in a way that takes away from the present moment. Sex can be seen as a meditation upon love, a meditation about desire. Also, it is interesting to hear what she has to say about the role of the man as the one with the appendage, so to speak.The author advocates an awareness of being "in" sex rather than "having" sex. I have also found the book to be full of insight into couples and their relationships. It is a really great book. Now, i noticed that it is nearly all women who list this book. Being a guy, I expect some guys to be a bit skeptical about it, but I liked it.