Books like Unlikely

I liked this a lot because it very clearly illustrated how people lie to themselves (and therefore the other person) at the start of relationships; they want to be a better person, so they tell the person that they're better than they are. They say, "I don't do drugs anymore," or "I have no interest in that anymore," or "when I'm with you I feel like I'm someone else, someone I've wanted to be for a long time." That's awesome! I'm glad that person brings those qualities out of you and that you're improving your life because of it. But there's a difference between recognizing that someone brings those qualities out of you, and BEING THAT PERSON. Unlikely pretty accurately showed how a relationship starts with statements like those and ends because a person hasn't changed; she just returns to who she really is, without all the flights of fancy of who she could be some day if she dated this guy. Change has to come from within, and be an individual process.