Books like Summary The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

Ch. 1 Don't Try* Charles Bukowski was nearly irredeemable but at age 50 got his first book contract. "Don't Try" on his headstone. He was a loser and didn't hide it. Was comfortable with himself as a failure.* Positive self help focuses on what you lack. Road to a happy life is paved with more. Advertising tells us to try... to give a fuck... but that isn't good for mental health. Give a fuck about less and what is truly important.* Feedback loop from hell. Angry I'm angry, guilty I'm guilty etc. Being human is having thoughts about thoughts. Consciousness. It's ok to have anxiety, fear, anger etc.* Save the world by accepting the world is fucked.* Desire for more positive experience is a negative experience. Acceptance of negative experience is a positive experience.* Our crisis is existential... first world problems can be underrated.* Exceptionalism is bullshit... we are all mostly average. Extremes are what is reported on and what we see all the time now.* People who become great are improvers... they know they aren't great but can improve to be so* Avoidance of suffering is suffering etc.* This is not about being indifferent.* To not care about adversity, one needs something meaningful to strive for.* Suffer better, lose and let goCh. 2 Happiness Is a Problem* No value in suffering simply for suffering's sake* Pain teaches us limitations, what's important... it needs to be felt* Solution to one problem is the beginning of another. Hope for a life full of good problems.* Emotions are life's markers but they don't need to necessarily be trusted.* Hedonistic treadmill.. whatever makes us feel good will also make us feel bad. Getting a new house etc. won't fix things.* What pain do you want in your life... what will you struggle for? Not, what do you want in life...family, love etc .... most everyone has the same answer to the positive question.* Thought he wanted something (being a rockstar) but turned out he didn't. It wasn't quitting when he stopped trying. It was admitting the truth.Ch. 3 You Are Not Special* 60s thought that self esteem was the key to success... 70s the philosophy entered parenting* No point to feeling good about yourself if you have nothing to feel good about.* Entitled people have no self-awareness.Ch. 4 Value of Suffering* Self-awareness onion... there are lots of layers to it and you'll cry at odd times. First know your emotions, second know why you feel these emotions, third evaluate your personal values* Most self-help is about short term feeling better.* Self worth doesn't come from material success, pleasure, being right* Take responsibility is an important value... be responsible for everything in your life... be responsible for how you respond to life. With great responsibility comes great power.